Off on the Wrong Foot
By Celeste Dawn Mitchell, BET.com Staff Writer Posted March 1, 2007 -- BET.comer BETmami757 is freaked out by her man’s foot fetish. Many people don’t see why it’s a problem. It’s flattering, right? But as someone with experience in the area, I have to disagree.
I dated a guy who had a foot fetish. It was summertime (of course). At the end of every date, he would ask to see my toes. Then that evolved into him suggesting polish colors. He said he was tired of my “electric blue” (it was my metallic phase) and my “boysenberry" polish, and wanted to see me in something else.
It was cute at first, but the last straw came when he wanted to pull of my shoes in the middle of a Will Smith movie at the AMC and rub my feet. I'm not one to turn down a nice foot massage, but I just found the public removal of shoes and rubbing slightly inappropriate. We had a big fight about my “being stingy with my feet” and we ended up sitting apart for the rest of the movie.
The thing about fetishists is that they get really scary when confronted about it. They don’t want to hear that they’re weirdos, and any attempt to point out the obvious ends in a fight. BETmami says she’s told her boyfriend that he freaks her out, but she’s scared she might lose him if she presses the issue.
Foot fetishes are a gateway to other kinky stuff. It starts with a foot rub, and maybe he gives you an occasional polish. Then he wants you to always wear foot jewelry. Next thing you know, he’s asking you to wear a leather harness and walk up and down his back in 4-inch stilettos like the neighborhood dominatrix on “Desperate Housewives.” Or worse.
BETmami757, you’ve been warned. Take it from me. Cut and run.